...or when you die?
This is another 'Would You Rather?' which the characters discuss in the 'How To Save The World' books.*
* Specifically, in 'How To Save The World: Part 2B - By Whatever Means Necessary'.
Given the circumstances that the main character, Eric, finds himself in, you could say it was quite a tactless choice of conversation for Kesta (Eric's mate) to bring this dilemma up, but anyway those are the two choices.
Would you rather find out how you die or when you die?